How to Discover Where Your Happiness Lives

In this Mindful video, Elaine Smookler offers 3 things to consider when asking yourself what particular things bring you happiness.

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Who doesn’t want to be happier in their life? But what is happiness?

It’s different for everyone and the challenge is finding what it means for us. Kurt Vonnegut says it so well: “And I urge you to please notice when you are happy, and exclaim or murmur or think at some point, ‘If this isn’t nice, I don’t know what is.”

In this video from Elaine Smookler, she asks people to notice that sometimes the reason we’re not happy is because we haven’t taken the time to figure out what that means for us. We get so caught up comparing our lives to others that we struggle to answer the simple question: what brings me true happiness?

Here are 3 things to consider when discovering what brings you happiness:

1) Try for Happier-ness: “I personally find it helpful not necessarily to think in terms of happiness exactly, but I’m kind of okay even with the notion of happier-ness—noticing anything at all that moves me in a direction of something delightful, starting to cultivate my own experience of what makes me happy. Because what makes me happy might not make you happy, it may not make your partner happy.”