Don’t Squabble Over Small Stuff

Sparks should come from connecting bodies, not clashing egos, so make love not war.

Monkey Business/Dollar Photo Club

What’s the dumbest argument you’ve ever had with a partner? Mine happened in a little blue convertible, driving to my former boyfriend’s cabin. We were in love, but we clashed often. We stopped for ice cream, and he brought me the wrong flavor. I complained loudly, he fired back. Then he reached over, took the sundae, and threw it out of the moving car.

I stared at him in open-mouthed shock. Then I clearly saw how our discontented minds caused the harsh words and deeds. In that moment I had a choice. I could keep criticizing, or I could contact my heart. So I laughed, he relaxed, and I pledged to learn to fight fair.

Is there really something to fight about? Or are your arguments all in your head?

Sure, I am a love expert now, but the truth is, I used to have tumultuous relationships. I mistook tantrums for passion. As for make up sex? Overrated. If we have to hurt each other in order to get close again, something is wrong. So when I am asked if a couple can have a great relationship even if they fight a lot, I…