When it all comes together, ballroom dancing is like flying. Every part of your body is moving all the time, every part engaged and energized.
I remember one Saturday night when I was out dancing with my husband, Phil. It was a social dance at our instructor’s studio. The floor wasn’t very crowded, so we had plenty of room to move. We took our positions and started to glide along the floor as the waltz played. I moved lightly, curving in and out of Phil’s arm as he led me into turns. As he did, I had space to pull through the move and go past him—dancing in unison and in the same direction as the other pairs, as the whole group charted a big circular course around the room.
It’s pure pleasure to follow your dance partner. It’s the one time in your life when you’re not supposed to be thinking. As women, we’re used to taking care of busi- ness and getting the job done, and it can be quite hard to turn that o and just follow. But when you’re able to do it, it’s a real joy.
My husband and I are part of a large…