The only rule, our grief experts say, is that there are no rules. You get to define your grief and your response to it. (You can curl into a ball. You can cloak yourself in black. You can go back to the office.) Beyond that, author and podcaster Kate Bowler suggests the following.3 Mindful Ways to Work Through Grief Lean into what is meaningful for you. You may ask, as Bowler did, “Is there someplace of service or gift or job that gives me purpose and momentum right now?”See what is possible today. Gently recognize that, even with finite choices, there are, nonetheless, choices. In Bowler’s words: “Somewhere between the idea of nothing is possible and everything is possible, we are able to ask, ‘What is possible today? What is mine to do?’”Let go of the need to fix other people’s grief. “If you don’t think someone’s life is a problem to be solved or a tragedy to be fixed, you’ll feel less scared about being around them,” says Bowler. “They will take great comfort in knowing that they are not alone. It’s such a nice feeling…
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Leslie Garrett is the author of more than 15 books for children, as well as a journalist whose work has appeared in The Atlantic, Washington Post, Good Housekeeping and Cottage Life. She currently works as co-editor of Bluedot Living, Martha’s Vineyard, which focuses on local grassroots solutions for climate issues, and aims to expand to locations around North America.