The simple act of paying attention is really the kindest thing you can do for yourself. When our mind is scattered it creates pain and disconnection, and that pain and disconnection gets picked up by others. It’s contagious. You’ve likely experienced what it feels like to take on that pain and disconnection from other people. The fact is, we’re sending it and sharing it all the time. But if each of us can take a moment or two to pay attention to where we’re at and what’s going on, that’s the kindest thing we can do. It’s being kind to ourselves and that kindness wears off on others.
So that’s really what this last practice is about—a little bit of the basic breath-awareness practice, followed by a generosity practice.
A 12-Minute Breathing Meditation to Cultivate Attention With Barry Boyce
A 12-Minute Breathing Meditation to Cultivate Attention
- Take a comfortable posture, wherever you are, seated in a chair or on a cushion. Sit up straight, but don’t stiffen your spine. Angle your chin slightly down. You can have your eyes open or closed. Now begin to pay attention to your breath as it goes out. And as it comes in. Just keep doing that for a few moments.
- When you notice thoughts, just notice them and catch the next breath. You can’t go wrong. So let’s just do that for about a minute, without any further guidance.
- Now we can take a moment to expand our awareness a bit. How does your body feel? Do you have any aches or pains or tensions? Just go to them, notice them. Ease them if you can. Notice your emotional state. Are you excited? Are you thinking of someone you love? Is some detail from work bothering you? Just take a moment to notice how emotions feel in your body. Notice your emotional state at this time.
- Let’s come back now to paying attention to the breath as it comes in and out. As thoughts arise, come back to that and to your body, well seated, composed.
- Now let’s conclude with some generosity. Thinking of someone you know, someone who’s in pain or in need: take a moment to imagine that person. Now imagine that any kindness or composure or well being you’ve developed can relieve that pain and satisfy that need. Give it to that person mentally. You are literally giving away the good that we’ve developed here. In your mind, allow that good to rub off on others.
- Expand your thinking to the pain and needs of your community, however you define that currently. That could mean your family and friends, your town, just a little broader than one person. Imagine these feelings of well-being helping them to ease their pain and satisfy their needs.
- Let’s expand much broader now—to your whole country. Send out that feeling of well-being and goodness to your country.
- Take it even farther for a moment: out to the whole world. Breathing out, and breathing in.
By doing such a generosity practice, we’re not saying there will be immediate relief of the pain and need in the world, but it rouses our own intention and goodwill to keep working toward that. It’s a very good way to end something in which we’ve developed some well-being together. The point is to share it—because, as we know, it’s not just about you and me.
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